The 4B movement is not Fooling Men
The election of Donald Trump has brought about some interesting actions by the left. From moving to Canada, to freaking out and crying, all the way to women shaving their heads.
The reactions have proven to be rather unhinged.
However, one specific movement may be shining an ironic light for all Western civilization to see.
What is the 4B Movement?
4B stands for four Korean words: bihon, bichulsan, biyeonae, and bisekseu. Translated, these words mean no marriage, no childbirth, no dating, and no sex with men.
In 2016, a man reportedly considered an incel murdered a woman near a subway station because he felt ignored. The feminist portions of the nation exploded, making the conversation front and center in public discussion.
Some women were attached to the trend and determined that they would "punish" men in the nation until something changed. The numbers and impact are difficult to assess, and the movement has lost steam over the years. Disagreements within the progressive movement in Korea have splintered, causing division in their mission.
4B and Donald Trump
Immediately after Trump was elected, feminists took to social media to loudly proclaim that the election of Trump forced them to adopt the 4B position. This means leftist women upset over the perceived loss of "abortion rights" and Trump's "tyranny" decided they would punish all men. After all, only men voted for Trump, right?
While the attitude shows quite the delusion of importance in global affairs, the movement is built on a self-defeating premise for several reasons.
1) They're Not Our Type
Guys who voted for Trump have little interest in dating or building a life with women who are willing to announce how they're going to withhold sex from a guy because of his political vote. Conservative men prefer conservative women for several reasons, many of which are based on a conservative woman's desire to have a family.
Ladies, you may not understand this because of the type of men you run around with, but quality conservative men are more interested in a family than in wasting their time in a useless relationship based on social credit and sex.
Yes, there are plenty of guys who are trash out there, but let's remember what the previous couple of decades have brought about: women believing that there was no consequence or cost to sleeping with many men during their prime years, and deluding themselves into expecting Mr. Right to come around once she finished giving into her hedonistic tenancies. Some men may be okay with it, but we have to wonder at his own standards and character.
And those trash men? They were willing to oblige and play the game with these women. Unfortunately, many of those men knew they wouldn't pay near the cost that the women would later in life.
Punishing a group of men for an action of their character (voting conservative because that's who they are) only further proves to men across America that these women were red flags to begin with.
And while some women have claimed their difficult history with men as the reason for jumping on the 4B bandwagon, many believe they're gaining important social credit by announcing their intentions. Much like the profile pictures that include a Ukranian flag, the virtue signal of the left is based on gaining credit for simply saying the right things.
2) The Traditional Conservative Realm is Laughing at You
That's right. The men you believe you're punishing are laughing at you and clapping for you to continue. They believe in marriage, children, Godly values, and building a life. By attempting to punish men by abstaining from sex, you've taken the next step in bringing the culture back into their value system.
You believe this hurts them. No, it only hurts the guys pretending to be progressive who want women's lib to hopefully get in your pants. It hurts the guys looking for that easy girl who is "experimenting and exploring herself." It does not hurt most Trump-supporting conservative guys. Simply put: if your standards were so low that a political vote made you shut down relationships, then how stable and strong are you really?
To the conservative man, it means fewer abortions performed, less of a next generation of progressive babies, and a growth of intentional, high-standard, covenant courtships that our past several generations have lacked.
You're giving us exactly what we want. A society that looks to diminish its appetite for sexual promiscuity and bring about a resurgence of traditional values through conservative-minded families. Oh, the horror.
But we also laugh because it's a win-win. If you become more traditional, then we've won you over. If you don't, then you're self-selecting and showing us to leave you to your devices. Frankly, if you stick with it, will result in a couple of cats and plenty of empty wine bottles.
3) It Won't Last
While women are shaving their heads and wearing bracelets to identify themselves, the white-hot rage and action will last about as long as it takes for their hair to grow back. In Korea, the movement quickly fragmented and lost its center position in the cultural discussion.
In America, the same will happen. The majority of women who have announced their new-found celibacy may last a couple of weeks or months, but their passions and reality will kick back in.
Typically, humans adjust to a new normal fairly fast. These women will wake up each day and feel less like the president changes their normal routine. Instead, the day-to-day will consume them, and the desires of their hearts will start to surface again.
Human beings are notorious for compromising their rashly announced habits. Much like telling everyone you're going on a diet, the danger is in the mundane nature of life after a few weeks coupled with the "Well, no one will know if I make this little compromise."
The women who have a chance at landing a man will most likely slowly work back into the dating pool.
The women who have no chance will find a new cause de-jour to announce to the world as to why they're not going to enter the dating pool that has rejected them repeatedly already.
4) Time is Not On Your Side
You aren't young forever. Women who swear an oath in their hearts that they will never date men again or start a family may feel liberated at the beginning. But as the years roll forward and time takes over, they'll find themselves losing ground in a game they cannot win. The force of time will hem them into a decision made in passionate haste.
This means that in several decades when their relationship value has fallen to almost nothing, they'll realize they've trapped themselves into a lonely sunset period. Some people will be completely content living alone, however, the vast majority will regret never settling down. They'll long for grandchildren running around their legs as they prepare Thanksgiving dinner. They'll wonder what it would have been like to hold hands with their husband as they sat on the deck watching the sunset. They'll wonder why they spent so much energy and passion on a job that forgot them the day they left.
They'll realize that time cannot be bought and that we only have one life to live.
How Do Men Respond?
Stand on your values. Reject the forceful nature of an ultimatum and keep doing what you're doing. 10s of millions of women voted for Trump, meaning there are plenty of conservative women in this nation. While the group of quality, reasonable women may not be at the numbers it has been in the past, these women are merely making clear where not to look. Enjoy the heads-up.
Instead, we as men do best by focusing on self-development and improving our lot in life. We will benefit from serving our family, friends, neighbors, and community. We grow when we apply our strength traits to the common good. After all, a strong man uses his strength for good, not for himself.
This whole thing will blow over and die out pretty quickly.
My advice to the average guy? Double down. Stand on your convictions and continue to pursue traditional values, self-development, and service in the aid of others. Pray for a quality woman. Hold to the long-lasting standards that have served Western civilization for so long. Don't let the whinging harpies drag you down.
But at the end of the day, I don't even need to say that. You're already laughing at the ridiculous nature of the 4B movement.
Isn't it ironic?
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